How to finally score a date

Getting a second date seems to be a conundrum that gentlemen all over the world find themselves in every single time they have a successful first date. And while yes, this matters, what about the crucial steps for getting you in front of the right girl in the first place?

Simple as this may seem, this is often where most men go wrong. Desperate and bored, a gentleman can easily find himself asking out any girl that gives him the time of day. If you don’t feel any kind of an immediate connection with her, chances are she’s not going to feel the same way and you’re going to find it very difficult to get a date out of her. Take your time – there are plenty of fish in the sea. Once you’ve found her, let her know you’re interested by asking for her number. She could give you a fake one, but it’s worth a try.

Once you’ve found the right girl (and you’ve made sure she’s single), you need to play your cards very carefully; go wrong here, and you risk losing her forever. Start off with a friendly text – assuming that the aforementioned has gone to plan – nothing too keen or over the top. If she replies, and depending on the nature of her response, you’ll be able to work out whether or not you’re in for a chance. Always try to crack a couple of jokes in this initial stage, and never take yourself too seriously.

Don’t text her once and then ask her for a date straightaway. Remember, girls like to be chased but they also like a gentleman that plays slightly hard to get. You want her to want to you to ask her on a date. Caving and asking her too quickly won’t play in your favour – trust us. You’ll be able to tell when there’s a natural break in the conversation and she’s waiting for you to ask her. Never let it get to a point when she has to ask you, no girl ever wants to be in that position.

Harsh as it sounds, and sorry to any girls reading this, but you now need to back off for a few days. You’ve got her interested, there’s a natural break in the conversation and she’s waiting for you to ask her out. You now need to seem uninterested for a couple of days; keep her on her toes and she’s almost certainly guaranteed to jump at the first talk of a date. This bit is important though, because if you leave it for longer than 3 days, she’s going to get irritated and start playing hard to get. 48 hours is the perfect amount of time to make her lust after you. Trust us here, this tactic works every time.

You’ve left her in the cold for 48 hours, so you don’t want to jump in there and immediately ask her out. Don’t apologise or make excuses for not texting her either, because that totally defeats the point of your radio silence. Send her a short message and ask how she is, make a joke and keep things casual. After her response is the perfect time to take the plunge and ask her out. Be prepared for her to wait a day to reply but don’t be put off, she’s only playing you at your own game.

Once she’s agreed, you then need to make sure you’re in control throughout the next stages. Don’t ever say you ‘don’t mind’ where you go, or you’re free ‘any day that works’. Don’t be harsh, but don’t be the guy thats eating out the palm of her hand. Ask her if she’s free on a specific day, and then tell her where you’re going to go. Never take her for dinner on the first date, it’s too awkward and too forward, take her for a cocktail in one of the city’s best bars, and see where the night takes you.