Etiquette -- 4 hours ago
8 things women wish you knew
Let’s set the scene. You’ve just sat down for dinner in her favourite restaurant. You’re sharing a bottle of her favourite Merlot. You bought her favourite flowers, and not even because you were late. You were actually early! But despite all this, she isn’t smiling. In fact, she looks a bit irritable and when you ask what’s wrong she just keeps doing that twitchy lip thing and saying she’s just tired and had a bad day at work. You reason with her, saying it’s fine because she’s leaving soon and anyway – and it’s nearly the weekend! But it only seems to make her more irate and you can’t understand why, because you’re honestly only trying to help.
You sigh, look back down at your menu, and wonder if you will ever understand women….(you won’t). But don’t despair. We are difficult to understand, but not impossible. So here are some things we wish you knew that will definitely (hopefully) help you.
1. Women don’t get annoyed by men not doing things, they get annoyed when you say you’re going to do something, then don’t. We don’t see it as you changing your mind, we see it as lack of commitment. This sends our inner cavewoman into blind panic.
2. You’re a natural problem solver. A fixer. And that’s fine, you’re a man, you were bred that way. But sometimes you might make the mistake of trying to fix a problem we’re having. And women don’t always want a solution, we just want to talk the problem through. Over, and over, and over again… deal with it.
3. We over-analyse. So if you want to be left alone, vocalise this rather than just being distant otherwise we’re likely to spend a great deal of time worrying that it’s something we’ve done. Which may or may not result in us engaging in some seemingly bizarre distancing tactics of our own, or worse: neediness.
4. When we say we’re tired, consider that it might be true and not always girl code for: I’m furious with you.
5. If we’re eating slowly and pretending we’re not hungry, we still might be. So just wait five minutes before eating your lunch as well as ours.
6. Gentlemen, if you’re tired on a night out and want to go home then just tell your friends that. Don’t use your girlfriend as an excuse. It’s pathetic. Harsh but true.
7. We don’t get annoyed at situations unless you try and hide them from us and then say ‘I didn’t tell you because I knew you’d react like this.’ That’s the world’s worst cop out. Please refrain from using it, ever.
8. It might be hard to believe but sometimes we really do say what we mean, and mean what we say. I know, mental right.
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