5 body language tricks that will make you more attractive
Words: India Gladstone
Body language is global. There are certain mannerisms that mean the same the world over: cross your arms and you’re annoyed; cross your legs in the opposite direction to your neighbour and you’re angry. Most of the time though, you don’t realise what you’re doing and how those mannerisms are coming across to anyone else in the room. But there are certain, more subtle, changes that can do you a whole world of good when it comes to appearing more attractive to the opposite sex.
Maintain eye contact at all points
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Not looking someone in the eye when you’re speaking to them has to be one of the rudest, most careless mannerisms in the world. Not only does it make you seem entirely uninterested in whomever it is you’re talking to but it’s also bound to seriously annoy her, resulting in you becoming very quickly dateless. You need to make sure you’re maintaining eye contact during the entire conversation, from greeting her until the end of the night. Make sure, though, that you’re not looking quite so intensely into her eyes, because creepiness is another sure fire way to put her off.
Open yourself up, rather than close yourself off
Closing yourself off, whether that means folding your arms, looking away, or facing your body away from her is going to instantly make you seem unattractive to her. Every girl wants to meet a gentleman who seems open and approachable, rather than the opposite. Make small changes and, in any situation that you think might count, make sure you check yourself permanently – at least until seeming more open because a habit.
Focus, don’t fidget
Biting your nails or constantly fidgeting with anything in sight is bound to make her just as restless as you feel. And while, to you, it might come across as nervousness, to her it will come across as rude or worse, weird. Try your best to keep still, seem interested in what she’s saying and make sure that you’re keeping your focus on her (again, not creepily) at all times.
Use physical contact (carefully, and with discretion)
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Touch her arm subtly when you’re laughing at her jokes, or put your hand on her back when she’s walking out of the door but never take it too far. You don’t want to cross those boundaries and to make her feel uncomfortable, but you do want to make her feel wanted, in the most subtle way. Make sure that you’re always reading the situation right, though, and that you always use the utmost discretion when it comes to physical contact.
Do not shake hands with the opposite sex
… unless it’s in a business situation. If you’re meeting a girl for the first time in a less formal and more date-like situation (or a situation that could lead onto a date), it’s much better to kiss her on both cheeks. Shaking her hand will come across slightly old fashioned, whereas a direct kiss on both cheeks will make you seem more open, relaxed and casual. It’s not too forward, and there are very few women out there in this day and age who will actually see it as such.
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